Transitions and New Beginnings

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Today on my 100th episode and just a week and a few days following my 30th birthday, I am talking about some unexpected twists, turns, and decisions that have come up over the last few months.

Sometimes the unexpected is exactly what we need… it just takes us honoring our gut and following through (even when it brings up fear).

So today, I’m sharing what’s been on my heart over the last few months as well as what that means moving forward… thank you for your patience as I’ve sorted all of this out - as always I have so much love for you.

Let me know if you have any questions - onward and upward <3

 

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How To Decipher Between Fear + What You Desire

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Today (on episode 99!!!!!!!) I break down the difference between your intuition (the part of you that KNOWS what you want/desire) and your fear voice.

I’ve received so many questions on how to tell the difference between what you “should” do vs what you actually want to do …. And so today I’m breaking it down.

Because you deserve to pursue the life YOU desire, without having to completely throw your analytical self out of the window ;)

I hope you enjoy this episode!!

(I’m also sharing an exclusive sneak peek of what to expect with my new GROUP program that’s being released sooooo soon… get ready, it’s going to be EPIC)

 

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Unpacking Gossip + Receiving

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EPISODE 98: This has been something I’ve been wanting to talk about for a while.

We see gossiping about other women or putting other women down portrayed so heavily in entertainment/media today. And it is normalized to a point where we bring it into our own lives.

So today I wanted to break down gossip: why we do it, where it typically comes from, and how to start shifting it… 

And why receiving and learning how to truly receive/celebrate ourselves and one another go hand in hand.

Because I want to move into a world where we lead with love… where we can truly and genuinely celebrate, empower, and uplift one another. I get goose bumps thinking about what kind of impact we can create from that place.

(I’m also sharing an exclusive sneak peek of what to expect with my new GROUP program that’s being released sooooo soon… get ready, it’s going to be EPIC)

 

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Navigating Jealousy + Judgment

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Did you cringe a little bit when you read those words?

I hear you.

Those two words were FULL of guilt and shame for many years. And they still hold so much negativity for many people today.

BUT when we can get curious about them and look at these words as they arise in a different light, we can learn so much about ourselves… not only that but we actually create the opportunity for MORE love (within ourselves and the world)

So today, I’m breaking down a different way to understand and see jealousy + judgment and how you can get curious rather than pile on the guilt when they arise.

 

(I’m also sharing an exclusive sneak peek of what to expect with my new GROUP program that’s being released sooooo soon… get ready, it’s going to be EPIC)

 

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4 Steps To Recognize + Shift The Negative Stories That Are Holding You Back

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The things we think have power when we give them power

^ this concept has been life changing for me.

So many of us move through our day holding onto stories, definitions, + beliefs that DO NOT serve us simply because we’ve been holding onto them for most of our lives… they were picked up along the way of life and we didn’t realize that we had the power to release/change them. And so they became truth.

BUT we have the power to shift + release what doesn’t serve us so that we can step into our truth and live out the life we desire.

 

So today, I’m sharing 4 steps I use to help recognize + shift those stories so that you can stop holding yourself back and be YOU.

 

(I’m also sharing an exclusive sneak peek of what to expect with my new GROUP program that’s being released sooooo soon… get ready, it’s going to be EPIC)

 

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Coming Back Home To Yourself

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Information O V E R L O A D.

^ I’ve been feeling this deeply lately.

And in almost every conversation I’ve had with other people around this I’ve been met with a sigh of relief and “ME TOO.”

I’ve been talking so much about questioning everything, about taking a hard look at my own life and asking “is this necessary, is this what *I* want, or am I feeling pressured by an external standard or some outside social media influence?”

Crazy morning routines, good vibes only, external measures of success, exercise regimens, food regimens, lifestyles… you name it… are thrown around like crazy each one being labeled as the personal development “must dos in order to feel like this….”

It has gotten to a point where it’s hard to make a decision for ourselves without guilt, a “should” taking over, or paralyzing comparison hijacking the experience. Where in order to take the next step, we find it so easy to turn to our outside world for confirmation that it’s the “right” decision for us.

So today, I’m talking about what it means to come back home to yourself, how to question whether or not these tools on our handheld devices are actually serving us and understanding that at the end of it all, you are the expert of your own needs (not someone on social media)

Some big changes are coming: so get excited.

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Why We Turn To Comparison

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EPISODE 94: Oh man… this week is a topic I am SO passionate about.

This year I’ve been called to explore more of myself. To dive into things I’ve denied or pushed off in the past, things like learning how to lean into my feminine energy, exploring womb + sexual shame healing, understanding my menstrual cycle and creating a new relationship with my cyclical nature.

SO MUCH of leaning to what it means for me to be a fully expressed woman in this world.

And with all of that, I see SO clearly how all of this ties together with learning how to let go of shoulds, navigating people pleasing, understanding your desires and needs in this world, and why it’s so easy to turn to comparison.

Today, I’m talking about how all of this goes hand in hand with comparison and how we can start changing our relationship to ourselves and to the stories society has created around being women.

Because love, you are fucking powerful… exactly as you are.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love <3

  • REMEMBER:

    I was recently invited to be a guest for an online summit all focused on empowerment + living more authentically.

    The Power Label Summit hosted by Nicki Hu begins on September 21, 2020.

    Inside of this FREE series, you will not only hear me dive into self love (and what that really means) but also what 20 other experts have to say around:

  • How to find clarity and overcome blocks that are holding you back,

  • How to manage your mindset to live a happier life,

  • How to start putting your needs first, 

  • Best practices to build self love, confidence, and courage,

  •  How to move forward with trauma, grief, and anxiety, 

  • How be a leader through authenticity, 

  • And so much more! 

 
Register here to save your free seat : https://www.thepowerlabel.com/stephanie-dankleson

 
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How To “Enjoy The Journey” More Fully

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BUT FIRST SOME EXCITING NEWS!

My high touch 6 month 1:1 program is now OPEN for enrollment. This program is my baby and was developed based on what I needed during my own journey of people pleasing + feeling pressured by “shoulds.”

This round I am only taking 5 women. Send me a message on instagram (@stephaniedankelson) or shoot me an email (hello@stephanie-dankelson.com) to get more info <3 I can’t wait to support you on this journey.

SECOND!

I was recently invited to be a guest for an online summit all focused on empowerment + living more authentically.

The Power Label Summit hosted by Nicki Hu begins on September 21, 2020.

Inside of this FREE series, you will not only hear me dive into self love (and what that really means) but also what 20 other experts have to say around: 

  • How to find clarity and overcome blocks that are holding you back,

  • How to manage your mindset to live a happier life,

  • How to start putting your needs first, 

  • Best practices to build self love, confidence, and courage,

  •  How to move forward with trauma, grief, and anxiety, 

  • How be a leader through authenticity, 

  • And so much more! 

 
Register here to save your free seat : https://www.thepowerlabel.com/stephanie-dankleson

Now, as for this weeks episode… I bring up a topic I hear all of the time (and have talked about myself) enjoying the journey.

I know first hand how difficult this concept can be so today I am sharing 2 reasons as to why that feels difficult and how you can start removing those road blocks to find more fulfillment NOW on the way to your goals.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love <3

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Permission To Be Where You Are

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BUT FIRST SOME EXCITING NEWS!

The Worthiness Method, my high touch 6 month 1:1 program is now OPEN for enrollment. This program is my baby and was developed based on what I needed during my own journey of people pleasing + feeling pressured by “shoulds.”

This round I am only taking 5 women. Send me a message on instagram (@stephaniedankelson) or shoot me an email (hello@stephanie-dankelson.com) to get more info <3 I can’t wait to support you on this journey.

Last week you may have noticed an episode was not released… and theres a reason for it (which I am soooo excited to share with you)

So on today's episode I talk about something I’ve been learning that has given me so much PERMISSION to be exactly where I am in my life and how you can start doing the same.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love <3

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My Top 3 Tips For Getting The Most Out Of Your Personal Development Journey

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“What’s your best advice for someone on this journey to self love?”

^ I was recently asked this question. And after sharing my answer I thought how important it was that I talk about this and share the lessons I’ve learned over the course of the last 5 years.

So on today's episode I’m breaking down my top 3 tips for getting the most out of your personal development journey (both things that I have found helpful and things that have taken me astray) in hopes that it will help you lean in more and stand stronger in your truth.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love <3

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What Acceptance Really Means

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“But if I accept + send love to myself right now, I won’t get to where I want to be.”

^ I had this mindset for a long time.

That if I finally accepted myself, right now as is, then I would never reach my goals. I would just mold into my couch, scroll social media for the rest of my life, and say goodbye to my desires.

So I motivated myself with hate and shamed my way into a lifestyle that would get me there.

We as humans desire to feel enough. We desire wholeness.

And for many years I not only desperately searched externally for that enoughness but oddly enough I was also simultaneously destroying and denying that sense of wholeness within myself.

Think about that for a second. When we don’t accept ourselves... when we shower ourselves with hate and shame and the consistent “I need to change because I am not good enough,” we are rejecting the very thing we crave within our own bodies.

WE are confirming the belief of “I’m not enough…”

And that’s when we bring in the acceptance.

So on todays episode I wanted to take some time to break down what Acceptance really means and how you can start using love + acceptance to motivate yourself to reaching your goals rather than turning to shame and hate.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love <3

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You Don’t Need To Look Outside Of Yourself To Feel Whole

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As humans, we crave connection.⁣

And it’s so easy to go outside of ourselves to get that need met.⁣

While connection with other humans is SO important, I have also found that connection with ourselves can be forgotten.⁣

Because far too often, we can be the hardest on ourselves.⁣

It becomes default not to question tearing ourselves apart⁣

To shame our actions, thoughts, and emotions⁣

To remove ourselves and disconnect from our bodies⁣

To numb the things we don’t want to deal with or look at⁣

And push away the parts of ourselves we refuse to accept⁣

^ But while doing so - even as we deeply crave connection - we create disconnection within ourselves.⁣

So today I wanted to talk about how you already have everything you need to feel the way you desire. Because you are enough, exactly as you are.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love <3

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It’s Not Your Job To Be Super Human

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For so many of us 2020 has flipped our world upside down…

And even in the midst of it all, we can STILL find ourselves with expectations to have our shit together. To be able to handle it all perfectly, with a smile on our face.

^ This can lead to soooo much overwhelm and frustration when we find ourselves not feeling the way we “should” be, leaving us feeling completely depleted and unable to refill our cups.

So today I wanted to give you permission to NOT be super human. To be exactly where you are. To know it’s okay to not have your shit together all of the time. And to give you some tips to help you start to repair those energy leaks so you can refill your cup and THEN change the world ;)

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love <3

Additional Resources:

  • Confident Decision Making Meditation Series

  • Email me at hello@stephanie-dankelson.com for podcast topic/guest recommendations, for questions, or just to say hi :)

  • Hang out with me on Instagram (@stephaniedankelson) for even more resources

Sarah on Her Journey To Uncovering Herself + Pursuing Her Dreams

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I am so excited to bring you this episode - I had the opportunity to interview one of my dear clients, Sarah and todays episode is all about celebrating her and her journey.

Sarah and I started working together in November of 2019 and we recently finished up 8 months of 1:1 coaching. The way Sarah has shown up for herself and this experience and the things she's been able to create for herself was so incredible to watch, I wanted to share her story with you all. 

She is such a bright light in this world and I can’t wait to brag about how amazing she is and for you to get to know her :) 

Today Sarah shares:

  1. Where she was before she started coaching

  2. The struggles of feeling overwhelmed, not good enough, and constant negative self talk

  3. Why she decided to invest in her personal growth and how she moved through the fear of taking that leap

  4. Her biggest ah/ha moments and experience of the program

  5. Where she is today and how she turned the big ball of overwhelm and inner chaos into information, a map of herself, and empowerment

  6. What she's up to now and the big dreams she is pursuing

I hope you enjoyed this conversation as much as I did! Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love <3

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Permission To Be Where You Are

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Today’s episode is simple. It is okay to be feeling what you’re feeling <3

I also share some tools to help you feel into this and give yourself more grace to feel all the feels.

You are so loved.

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Why I Don't Believe In Tough Love

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It is so easy to shower ourselves with harsh words and disappointment when looking at our actions/choices in this life, past or present…

“You’re better than that, get your shit together”

I’d shame myself for certain decisions made during a night of drinking

I’d follow a binge with angry, hurtful words and forced exercise

I’d shove emotions that made me “weak” deeper down in my body followed by “you need to be strong…”

I’ve followed so many actions in my life with anger, hate, and tough love thinking it would force me to get better, to avoid that choice next time.

But in doing this deep healing work, I’ve realized that this was of self motivation DOES.NOT.WORK.

SO on today's episode I wanted to talk about why I don’t believe in this form of self motivation, what it is we are truly craving, and how to switch into a more loving form of moving forward.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love!

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Why Your Desire To Succeed May Be Leading To Burnout

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As a collective, we have defined success as some sort of tangible, measurable outcome

Whether that be in the form of grades, performance, job title, money, how “hard” we work, the length of our to-do lists…

We receive praise + recognition for moving up the ladder of life in some way

^ and because of that so many of us have become addicted + reliant on our outcomes in order to feel something:

Worthy

Enough

Validated

Important

So on…

^ and that's when things get sticky.

SO on today's episode I wanted to talk about burnout and why your deep desire to succeed may be contributing and how to start shifting it so you can ENJOY your success and feel enough always.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love!

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Four Steps To Remove The Pressure

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Recently, I went mountain biking with some friends… and it wasn’t long before I fell to the (wayyyy) back of the group.

Immediately, I tried to keep up as sneaky thoughts of “geeze, why are you so slow get moving!” started passing through my head.

It wasn’t too long after I started pushing that my excitement for biking that day was replaced with frustration.

And that's when it hit me: Wait, why do I have to go fast?! Whose expectations are these?

^ This kind of situation can happen SO quickly if we aren’t paying attention.

Where our experience can quickly be taken over by expectations and pressures that have no business being there.

SO on today's episode I wanted to talk about expectations and share a few tips on how to recognize and remove them so you can ENJOY your moment more fully.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love!

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How To Actually Get To Know Your Higher Self

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Higher Self. A concept that is VERY popular in the personal development world today… and one where if we are not careful can pack on even more expectations and frustration if it’s not explored correctly.

So today I wanted to break down what Higher Self means and how to apply the activity and concept to your life in a productive healthy way so that you can really live out the truest YOU.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love!

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Getting Uncomfortable

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Today, I wanted to take the space  to address what is and what has been happening in the US...

First and foremost, for the Black community with me here (and beyond), I see you. I am standing with you. And I am fighting with you for a change.

Your emotions, everything you’re feeling and experiencing right now is so valid. Please know it’s all welcome here and if there is anything I can do to help support your further never hesitate to reach out. I am always available to listen, to hold space, and to do better.

It is my commitment to ensure that anyone who wants to be a part of this community feels safe, seen, heard, and accepted.

And I am doing the work needed behind the scenes to ensure that stays true always.

That looks like analyzing my business + making the necessary changes, continually educating myself, listening… and doing the work.

This isn’t a social media trend

This isn’t a week of being silent

This isn’t sharing a hashtag or a meme

This is a commitment for change for the long run.

And I am on that road with you.

& I promise to always act from integrity, not fear.

For everyone else here, I see you too. I know that unpacking privilege and racism, admitting where we are wrong is uncomfortable. Do the work but also be compassionate with yourself.

Like I always say, shame and hate will not help create the change. Curiosity, awareness, compassion, and action is what’s going to move the needle forward.

I wanted to take today's episode to focus on how we can do better. Specifically addressing the behaviors that may be blocking us from truly listening, from truly doing the work.

Along with that, here is a link that includes resources on how to take action, on how to be on this journey for the long haul.

Please know I am here. Let’s fight this fight.