Episode 36: Andrea Owen on Perfectionism, Numbing, and Feeling our Feelings

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This week on the podcast I am bringing you another guest episode and you guys, this interview had me fan-girling. Andrea Owen (@yourkickasslife) and her podcast Your KickAss Life Podcast has inspired so much powerful change in my own life and it was a true honor to have the opportunity to bring it full circle and invite her to be a part of my podcast.

In this episode we dig into all things perfectionism, expectations, certainty/control, values work, core beliefs (again because i love digging into them so much), what it looks like to process our emotions rather than numbing them, the different common numbing mechanisms that most of us use in order to avoid feeling, getting comfortable with discomfort and more.

A little about Andrea: Andrea Owen is an author, mentor, and professional certified life coach who helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choosing courage and confidence instead. She has helped thousands of women manage their inner-critic to create loving connections and live their most kick-ass life.She is the proud author of How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness (Seal Press/Hachette Books) which has been translated into 16 languages, as well as her inaugural book, 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve, (Adams Media/Simon & Schuster). When she’s not juggling her full coaching practice or hosting retreats, Andrea is busy competing in triathlons, chasing her 11-year-old son and 9-year-old daughter or making out with her husband, Jason. She is also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name “Veronica Vain”

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as i did!

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Episode 35: Amy Smith on People Pleasing and Speaking Your Truth

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This week on the podcast I am bringing you another guest episode! This time with Amy Smith (@thejoyjunkie) to talk all things people pleasing and speaking your truth.

In this episode we dig into (you guessed it) people pleasing and what it means, core beliefs and how to shift our worthiness wounds, how to stop playing the when/then game, taking action towards our goals in a healthy way, acceptance and what that means, how to not place worth in the external or in our results, allowing the space to just feel rather than avoiding our emotions, taking emotional responsibility, and more.

A little about Amy: Amy E. Smith is a certified confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Founder of TheJoyJunkie.com, Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-love. With acute focus on helping people “find their voice”, she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor and has been a featured expert on Fox 5 San Diego and YourTango.com.

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did!

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Episode 34: A solo episode on Accepting our Humanness and The Core of Diet Culture.

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This week on the podcast I am bringing you a solo episode. I wanted to use this space to discuss something that has been coming up in a lot of my conversations, both with clients and with friends.

I dig into judgement of ourselves, of others, and why we are the way we are. Why sometimes it is hard to express ourselves fully, to be truly authentic, and to choose the path that feels right to us. I talk about how society has shaped us to suppress our emotions and hustle for our worth. Why we seek and turn to external behaviors to fix something within us, to make us feel a certain way. And ultimately how diet culture plays a role in this and how it goes so much deeper than food, exercise, and the way our external bodies look.

I hope you enjoy this episode.

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Episode 33: Jessica Rothley on PCOS, Hormones, and Diet Culture

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This week on the podcast I am bringing you another guest episode! I am so excited Jess Rothley (@whollyhealed) wanted to sit down with me for a second time to talk about all things Hormones, PCOS, and diet culture.

In this episode we dig into PCOS (and the two different types), Estrogen Set Point (how each body has a different one and why it relates to how we are fueling ourselves), lowering stress (and how your body might not see exercise as a stress relief in the same way you do), why we should stop shaming our cravings (and why they are important), symptoms of underfueling yourself, what qualifies as a diet, how losing weight and restricting calories can actually harm our health, and more.

A little about Jess: Jess is a Certified Eating Psychology Coach who specializes in Functional Endocrinology. She is passionate about empowering women in their health journeys in a way that is size inclusive and diet culture exclusive. You can catch her discussing the taboo topics of women's health, body image, and society in her signature series #WHTabooTuesday on Instagram or posting pictures of her dog Kevin.

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as i did!

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Episode 32: Sanni Mccandless on Fear, Decision Making, and Creating the Life You Want To Be Living

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This week on the podcast I am bringing you another guest episode! I am honored to have had the chance to sit down with life and transition coach @sannimccandless to talk about fear, decision making, and creating the life you want to be living.

In this episode we dig into why waiting until you’re fearless never will actually come, what it means to create a relationship with the fear, how to start identifying what is working and what isn’t working in your life, the scarcity VS abundance mindset, how to set boundaries, decision making to help you feel more aligned with what lights you up on this earth, JOMO (JOY of missing out) rather than FOMO (FEAR of missing out), and so much more.

A little about Sanni: Sanni McCandless has built a career around the intersection of life design and the outdoors. She works primarily as a transition coach, helping outdoor-focused individuals create meaningful change and navigate the doubts and concerns that constantly get in the way of feeling fulfilled. Sanni challenges clients to communicate more honestly with those around them and achieve goals that have been on the back burner for too long. Sanni is also the cofounder of Outwild, a community and annual festival which aims to provide people with the space and tools they need to create more outdoor and value-driven lifestyles. Sanni currently resides in Las Vegas, Nevada where she enjoys year-round rock climbing and endless desert views.

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Episode 31: With Sarah Romero “Fitness Made Me Infertile”

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This week on the podcast I am bringing you another guest episode. I am so excited to share my conversation with Sarah (@kiwiandcarrot) and for you all to hear her story on her recovery from HA.

In this episode Sarah talks about her fitness journey, how she thought she was doing everything right from a health standpoint. She was exercising 5-6 times a week, eating 1600-1800 calories a day, eating foods that were “clean,” and was in the normal BMI range. From the outside, everything looked great.

When Sarah went off birth control to begin her family, she discovered her body wasn’t having a natural period and was eventually diagnosed with HA. We dive into her story, what she did to get her period back and how she has redefined health for herself today. We talk about redefining identities, working through the process of gaining weight, and reestablishing trust within ourselves and with our bodies.. Because our bodies are so much smarter than we give them credit for.

A little about Sarah: Sarah Romero is a certified personal trainer and fitness nutrition specialist. After recovering from hypothalamic amenorrhea and years of exercise addiction and disordered eating, she is now a strong advocate for body positivity and the anti-diet movement. She works with her mom as a food and wellness blogger for their blog, Kiwi and Carrot, as well as a contract photographer and videographer. Her and her husband just built a home together nestled up Little Cottonwood Canyon in Sandy, Utah. Sarah adores traveling with her husband and loves to spend her time outside whenever she can, rock-climbing, canyoneering, hiking and trail running.

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

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Episode 30: With Naomi on Binge Eating and Dropping out of Diet Culture

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This week on the podcast I am bringing you my FIRST guest episode of season 2.. an amazing interview/conversation with Naomi (@dietculturesucks).

On this episode we dig into how Naomi got to a place of body acceptance and out of the diet culture mentality. Why she doesn’t think we need to love our bodies all of the time to recover. How much time/brainspace diet culture steals from us. Self care and how we can expand the definition. How binge eating/emotional eating is demonized in diet culture and how we can start removing the shame around eating. How to be curious about our behaviors, thoughts, and feelings rather than judging them. Thin privilege, fat phobia and so much more.

A little about Naomi: Naomi is a former marathoner and diet culture dropout who chronicles her experiences with eating disorders, exercise addiction, dieting, and binge eating on her insta blog @dietculturesucks. She is passionate about body positivity and Health At Every Size. She writes to share the things she wishes she learned as a young girl struggling to recover in a culture that validates disordered behaviors as normal aspects of being a woman.

I hope you enjoy this episode!!

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Episode 29: A Solo Episode on Weight Loss and New Year Resolutions

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SEASON TWO IS FINALLY HERE! I am so excited to be back and to bring you new episodes every week. While I cannot wait to release the conversations I’ve had with my amazing guests I have decided to kick the season off with a solo episode to discuss New Year Resolutions and goal setting, specifically when it comes to health and weight loss.

It is SO common to set goals around our health and losing weight especially around this time of year. And it is also common to find ourselves a few months in feeling like we have failed or have done something wrong when we haven’t reached the goals we have set for ourselves.

In this episode, I not only provide you with tools on how to understand the why behind your resolutions but how to move away from weight loss goals and instead define what the best/highest version of you *feels like* and how to make decisions that align with those feelings.

Health is SO much more than weight loss and the best part is that we get to define what that looks like for us on an individual level. In the end, we get to decide how we want to feel and what works/doesn’t work for us on a day to day, moment by moment basis and we can do it from a place of love.

I hope you enjoy this episode!!

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Episode 28: Season 2 Sneak Peek

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It feels so good to be back and I can’t wait to share this season with you all. On this sneak peek bonus episode I go into:

  1. My reason for my tag line change : Why I decided to switch “Because there is a more freeing way to be fit” to “Because we all deserve to feel at home in our bodies”

  2. Why I want to create a new conversation around the New Year (instead of focusing on losing weight, hopping on a new meal/exercise plan, or giving into the pressures of diet culture), what that means, and how you can jump on board.

  3. Who you can expect to hear from this season as well as some of the topics we dig into (and a quick preview of some of my favorite lines from my conversations with these amazing guests)

If you want to follow along, you can use the hashtag #movewithradiance and tag me (@stephaniedankelson) so I can support you on your journey! I have also created a private Facebook page for anyone who is interested in extra support around the New Year and in changing the relationship they have with their bodies/exercise/food. Request to join here.

Please feel free to share this episode with friends, family, or anyone who you think might need a different message this holiday season. Let’s start changing the conversation around the New Years and learn how to come home to our bodies.

Expect the official season to launch January 3rd and I cannot wait to have you all along for the ride!

Episode 27: Final Episode of Season 1

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So this is the final episode of Season 1!! I want to say THANK YOU for all of your love and support and for showing up week after week, I seriously can’t do this without you.

Doing this podcast has taught me SO MUCH and from these lessons, I have decided to make some small tweaks on my end to help bring you the best, most helpful content every week. So if you have guest or episode suggestions I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! (Send me an email at hello@stephanie-dankelson.com)

Season 2 will be released early next year.. make sure you are subscribed to Move With Radiance in order to be notified of updates and the launch. I am also active on the gram so come hang out with me :)

Again, THANK YOU for being on this ride with me, I so appreciate you all.

We will all chat very soon.

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Episode 26: Jamie Magdic on Defining Health for Yourself

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This week on the podcast I am bringing you an interview with the lovely Jamie Magdic. This episode was originally planned to dig more into movement (which we did a bit) but we ended up going wayyyy deeper (I’ll have to have her on again to discuss our original topic hehe). We dive into what people are *actually* looking for during their pursuit of health, going inward for answers rather than relying externally, that health should bring you happiness and how to define that for yourself, how to stop playing the when/then game and find fulfillment TODAY, how to be your own nutritionist, finding joy in movement and so much more.

A little about Jamie: Jamie is a registered dietitian nutritionist and owner of “Your Happy Healthy, LLC.” Jamie works both virtually and locally in the Boulder, Colorado area, where she lives her passion, helping people heal their relationships with both food and their bodies. Jamie believes that in order to properly nourish and take care of our bodies, we must approach health from a place of self-compassion and self-acceptance, where all foods fit, and where both the mind and body are taken care of. Jamie helps her clients rediscover their innate ability to be their own best nutritionist, to trust their bodies, and to learn how to be nourished from the inside out. She specializes in health at every size, intuitive eating, eating disorders, disordered eating, body image, and exercise addiction.

Jamie recently launched her first ebook called “Beginner Tips to Ditch the Diet and Move Toward Eating Intuitively.” This +100 page eBook started as a ten day Instagram challenge with the goal of giving followers the resources and support needed to quit dieting for good. With its success, Jamie decided to make the challenge into an eBook, featuring the experts in the field of intuitive eating, making this eBook the perfect resource for supporting your journey in healing your relationship with both food and your body.

If you would like a sneak preview, upon subscription to Jamie’s website, you will be provided with a free preview of the eBook to see if it is right for you.

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Episode 25: A Solo Episode on Recognizing and Changing Our Core Beliefs

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This week on the podcast I am bringing you a solo episode to discuss something that has been on my heart lately, core beliefs.

So often, we put all of our effort and focus on changing our behaviors to achieve a desired result: we switch up our workout routines or our diets or incorporate a ridgid morning routine all with a specific outcome in mind, a specific feeling we want to achieve. But how many of us find ourselves in the same position time after time asking why we haven’t moved forward or why we have taken steps back.

What many of us don’t know is that we all carry around these deep rooted beliefs about ourselves, and whether we realize it or not they are dictating every single action we take in this life. They are either holding us back or propelling us closer to the highest versions of ourselves. Until we do the deep internal work and open our eyes to those beliefs, we will never fully change our actions and therefore our results in this life.

In this episode I dig into all of that, how to recognize your core beliefs and how to start changing the ones that do not align with who you are/who you want to be. Because once we shift the beliefs that hold us back the actions and therefore the results we desire will follow.

I so hope you enjoy this episode

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Episode 24: Jess and BJ Gumkowski On Going Inward

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This week on the podcast I am bringing you an interview with two incredible people, Jess and BJ.

I LOVE conversations like this one.. I went in prepared with some questions and didn’t hit on any of them because the flow and natural convo was everything my heart wanted to dig into. We touched on topics that are so resonate with the learnings I am leaning into right now in my @hungryforhappiness certification program like actually feeling and leaning into our emotions (and getting out of our own way when doing so), Scarcity vs Abundance mindsets, how our beliefs, thoughts, and feelings affect our actions and therefore results in life, setting an intention and energetically aligning our choices with that intention, how our triggers are a vehicle for our healing, white light paint suits and more. Folks, this is a must listen.

A little about Jess and BJ:

YogiTriathlete is the lifestyle, wellness and coaching team of Jess and BJ Gumkowski. It is centered around their passion for sharing a recipe of vibrancy that has transformed the way they approach everything in their life. It’s a recipe that takes the work out of life and gives entry to the coveted flow state. Jess and BJ refer to this process as tapping into the inner badass.

Jess is a 500-hr Live Love Teach trained yoga and meditation instructor, board-certified massage therapist, 4x Ironman triathlete, 2x 50k ultrarunner, Vegan Lifestyle Coach and Educator, writer, speaker and podcast host. She credits mindfulness practices and high vibrational eating with creating significant and meaningful changes in her health, career, and relationships; and holds both essential to peak performance in sport and life.

BJ is a 13x Ironman triathlete, Ironman 70.3 World Championship and Boston Marathon qualifier, personal trainer, triathlon and running coach and a 200-hr Live Love Teach trained yoga instructor. He is a wellness advocate and is certified in Plant-Based nutrition from the T. Colin Campbell Center for Nutrition Studies. His zeal for life is infectious as is his passion for serving those around him in achieving their greatest dreams.

I hope you enjoy this episode!!

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Episode 23: Anne-Marie on Rebuilding our Foundation

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This week on the podcast I am bringing you an interview with my dear friend and yoga instructor Anne-Marie.

In this episode we hit on allllll of the things: belief systems, self care, boundaries for ourselves, leaning into emotion, being gentle with ourselves throughout our healing processes, looking at ourselves from a place of acceptance not judgement, play and so much more. Anne-Marie is a christian and we discuss how her faith has contributed to her personal growth, but I truly believe that whatever your spiritual beliefs are you can relate to her story and connection.

A little about Anne-Marie: Anne-Marie lives in Park City, Utah and is the proud mother of three children.  She has practiced yoga for over twenty five years and has been teaching for ten.  She has always been interested in emotional evolution and spiritual growth. Through years of self-exploration, Anne-Marie has developed a teaching style that compliments her students’ efforts for greater fitness and inner awareness.  As a visual artist she is known for both intricate detail and bold expression. Her work is in numerous private collections across the U.S. She is a staunch believer in the value of art education and has contributed years of instruction and curricular enhancement to private and public school environments.  Anne-Marie has found her stride as a coach who works closely with clients seeking wellness through meditation, yoga, creative expression and a thoughtful approach to nourishment through the art of eating well.

I hope you enjoy this episode!!

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Episode 22: Nicole DeBoom on Sobriety

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This week on the podcast I am bringing you an amazing interview/conversation with Nicole DeBoom. Last week I released an episode about my recent journey in sobriety which was sparked by this honest and very candid conversation with Nicole.  

We get curious.. About our identities through drinking, why we drank, what we were searching for through drinking, and how we decided it was time to give it up altogether. We talk about coping mechanisms, suppressing emotions, redefining who you want to be, and in Nicole's words:

“Accepting who you are, accepting the shit you did, (good bad or ugly) with whatever emotions are tied to it, accepting it and realizing that *you are not alone.* So no matter what you did in the past that you may feel ashamed about, embarrassed about, sad about, proud of, whatever, someone else out there is sharing those same feelings and has trumped you. We are not alone, you have not done the worst thing in the world or the best thing in the world, we are here together.”

A little about Nicole: Born and raised in the Chicago suburbs, Nicole was a standout swimmer, qualifying for the 1988 Olympic Trials and later graduating from Yale University. She decided to pursue the sport of triathlon and started racing professionally in 1999, racking up countless podium finishes. During the final stage of her racing career in 2004, Nicole created and introduced something that had never been done before – the first running skirt. Shortly afterward, Nicole went on to launch Skirt Sports with the mission of helping women find inspiration, confidence and courage through the transformative power of running and fitness. Today, Skirt Sports is a national women’s apparel brand offering a full line of products that fit real women’s bodies and support their busy running lives. Currently, you can find Nicole chatting with customers at the Skirt Sports Boulder flagship store, helping women change their lives through her non-profit organization Running Start, interviewing visionaries for her popular podcast Run This World and chasing around her 6-year-old girl, Wilder.

This episode is just two people sharing our lives, our struggles, our vulnerabilities, our learnings. And it goes to show that connection stems from humanness. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.  

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Episode 21: On Sobriety and Feeling Our Emotions

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This week on the podcast I am bringing you a very vulnerable, difficult to talk about solo episode.

I wanted to take the time to talk about a few things 1) dig into numbing mechanisms and what it means to not feel our emotions 2) my own story with drinking.

This is something I haven’t publicly shared on the podcast or to my audience in general and with an episode about sobriety coming out next week I wanted to share my story.

Like I have said before, our relationship to food, exercise and our bodies really have nothing to do with those things and everything to do with root causes we are covering up. So I wanted to talk about the importance of going inward, feeling our emotions, and taking responsibility for meeting our needs. That until we stop seeking externally for the things we need to meet internally, we will never find what we are looking for.

While this episode was difficult to share, I wanted to express that we are not alone in our struggles and that we cannot shame and hate our way into recovery. Until we are able to look at our past and present selves with love and acceptance we cannot move forward into healing and growth.

Keep going and I hope you enjoy this episode.

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Episode 20: Kersten Kimura on Hypothalamic Amenorrhea and Over Exercising

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This week I sat down with Kersten Kimura to discuss Hypothalamic Amenorrhea (aka losing your period), over exercising, and how the two are related.

We dig into symptoms of overtraining, why sleep and recovery is more important than squeezing in your workout, and why getting your period (even if you are not trying to get pregnant) is crucial for our health as women. This episode is full of information and I loved getting to know this lovely lady.

A little about Kersten: Kersten Kimura is a personal trainer and group fitness trainer based in Richmond, California. She has always been into health and fitness, so much so that she ended up overtraining herself which lead to a serious hormonal imbalance. She lost her period (called hypothalamic amenorrhea) for 10 years, became insomniac, was chronically fatigued, suffered from constipation and never ending brain fog.

She is now recovered from all these symptoms, and is helping women to recover from the same overtraining and undereating symptoms as well. Body acceptance is a huge part of her work, because without that, recovering from hypothalamic amenorrhea is nearly impossible.

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did!

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Episode 19: Cara Cifelli on Body Wisdom and Becoming Your Own Health Expert

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This week I sat down with Cara Cifelli to discuss ALL OF THE THINGS. This conversation lit me up you guys.

Along with digging into her new book “Body Wisdom,” we discuss what it means to become your own health expert, listening to your body, and how to apply an individualized filter to information we are consuming. We also talk about how weight loss doesn’t directly relate to health, cravings and what they mean, sugar addiction, comparison and so much more. If you at all struggle with how to be the decider of your own life and wanting to learn more about listening to your body rather than what everyone else is telling you then this is definitely a must listen.

A little about Cara: Cara Carin Cifelli, known as Caras Kitchen on Instagram, is a passion filled food lover and believes that what we eat affects who we are and how we show up in this world. Before realizing this, she spent most of her life chasing the body, career and life she thought she was supposed to chase to be fulfilled and admired. Now as a heart-centered entrepreneur and holistic health coach, Cara is truly doing her souls work, helping others heal their relationship with food and connect them more deeply to their body so they can discover what really matters to them in their lives. She's been featured in Mind Body Green, Recovery Warriors, Elephant Journal and The Feed Feed and is the author of the book Body Wisdom - a guide to rediscovering your relationship with food, trusting your intuition and becoming your own health expert.

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Episode 18: A Solo Episode on Rock Bottoms and Going After Your Dreams

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This week I am going solo. I wanted to dig a little deeper into my experience last summer, when I was laid off from my job and why preparing for/stressing about the worst case scenario doesn’t actually prepare you for the worst case scenario. I dig into my isolating, numbing, and the mental break down that symbolized my rock bottom.

But more importantly I talk about how the “right time” to go after your dreams never actually shows up, how you don’t have to wait for your own rock bottom to start living the life you want (a lesson from my summer..) and also how you can pick up the pieces after a crazy life event. I also talk about the importance of trusting yourself to make big scary choices AND how investing in yourself is so crucial in living your most authentic life. That by taking care of ourselves we can fully show up for others in our life.

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Episode 17: Hannah Meier on Why Diets Don't Work

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“I don’t think anything that is inhibiting your full experience of life can be ‘healthy’”

This week I sat down with Hannah Meier to discuss her profession as an anti-diet dietitian and her statement “there’s a lot of noise out there telling you what to eat (and more loudly, what NOT to eat), without really taking the time to understand who YOU are. Nutrition is personal and restrictive diets are not.”

We go into what diets actually do to your body metabolically (and ultimately why they don’t work) intuitive eating and what it means to get to the root of the cause of our eating behaviors, why we wouldn’t ignore other natural cues from our body (like going to the bathroom) so why do we ignore our hunger cues, what “health” means and so, so much more.

This is a good episode. Plain and simple.

A little about Hannah: Hannah is a registered dietitian living in Boston, MA where she works for the health food start-up 88 Acres by day, and runs a private nutrition counseling practice, Nutrition in Real Life, by "night" (and weekends). She is passionate about demystifying nutrition and breaking down B.S. diet rules, helping everyone find joy in food again and peace with their bodies.

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