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The mirror. My hardest, worst critic. That mirror hated me. It hated every piece of me. Every skin cell, every misplaced hair, every imperfect lash. It hated it all. I was never enough. I always needed to be fixed. And no matter how hard I tried, no matter how hard I worked there was no meal plan or exercise routine or mantra that would ever change those deep, deep wounds. I was simply unworthy.
Read MoreWhat does it mean to be authentic? I keep hearing the words “be your most authentic self.” I’ve said things like, “own your truth,” or “be your best self.” But what does that mean? I wanted to break down this word “authentic” and what it means to truly live out that word. Because if you can discover how to live YOUR authentic life, defined by YOU.. you will be able to live a life that feels so in alignment with your soul. One that you know in your gut that you were supposed to live.
Read MoreThis post walks through what I believe to be the reasons I have been able to find so much peace around food, exercise, and my body. I dig into the science behind set point weight (the idea that our bodies strive to be at a specific weight set by our own bodies) as well as how I have learned to to take the worth out of my weight/body image.
Read MoreOkay I have some pretty big news (well it feels like big news to me) I HAVE STARTED A PODCAST!!! Holy scary. My inner mean voice is going NUTS with things like “who the hell do you think you are? NO one is going to listen to you ramble for 30 minutes each week. What do you even have to say anyways.” And I would consider that the nice version of her…
Read MoreI have been deep in the winter blues the last few weeks. Where motivation is hard, comparison is easy, loneliness is overwhelming, and escaping feels necessary. Where the sun is rising as you leave for work and setting as you make your way home. Where you start craving the weekends and the sunshine and the warmth even more than usual. Where you want to so badly feel connected, yet it is so easy to isolate.
Read MoreA couple of weeks ago, I was at a conference with coworkers. While there I was meeting a lot of our partners and clients for the first time. Basically, I found myself trying to make and keep conversations constantly. A few days into the conference, I realized something about myself that I had never realized before - the way I talked about myself to others - especially around new folks. While I am constantly working on my inner self talk and the way I talk to me, I never really stopped to notice how I represented myself in a conversation. And that weekend, I learned that I tend to outwardly make fun of me.
Read MoreAfter I got back from my trip to Vegas last week, I realized not once did I overthink food on my trip… and that was an extremely exciting realization.
Let me explain.
Read MoreOver the weekend, I got on a plane to Las Vegas for a work event. And I guess it just never lined up in the past but here I was at almost 27 years old, standing in front of The Strip for the very first time. A few years ago, I would have dove head first into the culture of Vegas- the lights, the party's, the drinks. But today, I felt nervous. I was walking into a weekend of conference events, late night networking, and lots of opportunities to drink... with the intention of staying completely sober.
Read More30 minutes later I found myself alone, on the couch, with TWO empty burrito wrappers. It wasn't long before the shaming started. It has been a while since I have eaten so mindlessly, why now? From this point, I had two choices. I could either continue down the rabbit hole of shame and embarrassment and beat myself up OR I could use everything as information to move forward.
Read MoreWhen you hear the word exercise - what words/phrases/thoughts come to your brain right away?Does it look something like this: To burn all of the calories. A must every single day - can’t miss a workout. To keep weight off and to keep from putting weight on. To prove myself…. etc. So with those things aside let me ask you this: What is it about moving your body that you enjoy? What if we made decisions about our movement from enjoyment rather than the place of fear?
Read MoreLearning to listen to my body has allowed me to make the kinds of decisions that are right for me in the exact moment I am living in as well as create a deeper connection to my intuition. This lesson is the reason I have decided to shift my brand and my message because it is one of the most important and life altering lessons in my life thus far. If I can help just one person learn how to listen and trust their body again, then holy moly that is all I could ever ask for.
Read MoreI’ve been experimenting with the concept that exercise doesn’t have to be this fear based thing - that we can actually get up and want to spend a portion of our day moving our bodies because the activity itself truly brings us JOY. What if we started letting that love part of us drive instead? To take care of our bodies in a way that feels good to us.
Read MoreWhile working on Eric's birthday gift last week (a photo album of our past year), I was forced to reflect on this past summer and all of the hardship and growth behind the beauty of the some of those photos. And I thought now that the dust has settled and I have had some time to reflect, it would be a good time to talk about everything that went down and why I am now so, so thankful for all of it.
Read MoreI’ve been discussing these topics of love vs fear based decisions along with worthiness/ approval, and how to navigate our feelings to find those things internally. I wanted to talk about an experience from the weekend that challenged me when it came to all of the above and to remind you that this is a constant practice, that it is something I work on every single day. And while it may not always be easy, it is always worth it.
Read MoreThe single concept that I alone choose my worthiness and self approval was one of the most drastic, ah hah, life changing realizations I have ever experienced. I’ve touched on this in the past but I wanted to make it a focus today because it is so important in our journey to discovering who we are and what truly makes us happy. And until we realize that we choose how we feel about ourselves, we will be forever be searching externally for some of the most important pieces of us, those pieces that we can only find within.
Read MoreThe final post of my Control Series! Here I discuss the aspect of control that I struggle with on a daily basis - actually learning to deal with feelings of being out of control rather than resorting to the comfortable, unproductive methods of my past. I also share five ways I have learned to calm my tantrum throwing inner control freak and how adopting those methods can help you reach your True North.
Read MoreI realized this whole control thing is something I have and continue to really struggle with. There are multiple layers. Today I want to focus on what is, in my opinion, the most important part - that we only have control over how we show up to this world.
Read MoreI felt called to share this particular story not only because future posts will make a lot more sense but because I think negative body image is something so many of us struggle with - and I really want you to know you’re not alone in it and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. We don’t have to talk to ourselves this way anymore.
Read MoreHow to turn our ego and downward spiral of self destructing thoughts into self acceptance and love.
Read MoreStephanie Dankelson is a Move with Radiance Coach who helps you redefine your relationship to exercise, food, and your body by learning how to first redefine the relationship with yourself. Are you ready to discover your Inner Truth, your Inner Radiance? Because everyone deserves to feel at home in their bodies.
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